A Space for Reflection, Depth, and Change

I founded The Threshold Practice as a place for reflection, depth, and care — for the moments when life asks us to change, and for those who are ready to meet that change with honesty.

Much of my work focuses on the inner lives of gay and bisexual men, exploring how shame, intimacy, masculinity, identity, and belonging shape the way we move through the world.

Many of the men who come here appear to be managing life well on the surface — work, friendships, relationships — yet privately carry something heavier: loneliness, difficulty with intimacy, or a quiet sense of not quite belonging.

Often, beneath it all, there is shame.

Not loud shame, but the quieter kind — the feeling that something about you is too much, not enough, or somehow out of place.

Understanding Shame

Shame, in this sense, is not the feeling that we have done something wrong.
It is the deeper feeling that something about us is wrong.

It often sounds like:

• I am too much

• I am not enough

• If people really saw me, they would leave

• Love or belonging might not be for someone like me

For many — particularly gay and bisexual men — this begins long before there are words for it. It grows out of subtle experiences of exclusion, silence, or the feeling of being different in ways that are not welcomed.

Over time, that feeling shapes how we live: how much of ourselves we show, how close we allow others to come, and what we believe we deserve in love, intimacy, and belonging.

In therapy, shame is not something to be removed.
It is something to be understood.

Often, it has been protecting a very vulnerable part of us — the part that learned early on that being fully seen might not be safe.

The work is to meet that part with care, and slowly discover that the story shame tells about who we are is not the only story available.

How I Work

Therapy with me is relational, trauma-informed, and grounded in real connection.

It’s not about fixing you. It’s about understanding you.

We pay attention to what is happening in your inner world — your thoughts, emotions, body, and relationships — and how patterns may have formed over time.

Sessions take place online, allowing you to access the work from wherever you are.

There is no expectation to arrive with everything figured out.
Part of the work is finding a way to understand what has been hard to name.

Who I Work With

I work with men navigating:

• shame and belonging

• intimacy and relationships

• masculinity and vulnerability

• sexuality, including kink and alternative expressions

• non-monogamy and diverse relationship structures

• neurodivergence

• identity, connection, and community

These are not simply areas of professional interest. They are communities and experiences I am connected to personally as well as clinically, allowing the work to be grounded in understanding rather than distance.

A Little About Me

Many of the men who work with me say that what matters most is not only professional training, but the sense that they do not have to explain or justify parts of their lives here.

I am married and part of a number of communities that shape both my life and my work. I share my home with my husband, our dear friend, and our three cats — Emilio, Puca, and Sharon (there are stories behind those names).

Much of my time outside therapy is spent outdoors — in the garden, at my allotment, or wandering hills, forests, and mountains without a particular destination.

More recently, I have begun working with ceramics, which has become another way of learning patience, attention, and the slow process of shaping something by hand.

Community matters deeply to me. Over the years, I have founded and been involved in a number of projects — some that flourish, and others that remain unfinished attempts at building connection.

Background

Before becoming a psychotherapist, I worked in nursing and social care. These experiences shaped my understanding of care, dignity, and the complexity of people’s lives.

Alongside my clinical work, I have been holding spaces for men for over 15 years, including facilitating queer men’s retreats for the past decade. This work has deeply informed my understanding of group process, intimacy, vulnerability, and the ways men come into relationship with themselves and each other.

I hold a BA (Hons) in Counselling and Psychotherapy from the Institute of Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy (Ireland) and an MSc in Adolescent Psychotherapy from the University of Northampton, and I also hold a Diploma in Clinical Supervision across Professions.

I am an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

I am currently engaged in doctoral research in the humanities, exploring story, identity, and belonging in the lives of gay and bisexual men — particularly how shame, intimacy, masculinity, sexuality, and community shape the stories we tell about who we are.

Alongside my clinical work, I am also the Founder and Clinical Director of Rainbow Minds Centre, where I develop and deliver specialist training in gender, sexuality, and relational practice. I have presented at international conferences, including World Professional Association for Transgender Health events.Professional Memberships

British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)