Counselling and Psychotherapy
For gay and bisexual men navigating shame, intimacy, belonging, and change.
A Space to Make Sense of Things
Therapy is not only for a crisis, and sometimes it is.
Sometimes people arrive at therapy during quieter turning points — moments when something inside begins to shift, or when the ways you have always managed life no longer quite fit.
Many of the men who come to The Threshold Practice are gay or bisexual men who appear to be managing life well on the surface — work, friendships, relationships — yet privately carry something heavier: shame, loneliness, difficulty with intimacy, or a lingering sense of not quite belonging.
Sometimes it is easy to name what is happening.
Other times it shows up as restlessness, disconnection, or the sense that something in you wants to move but does not yet know how.
Therapy offers a place to slow down and begin to make sense of these experiences — not by rushing to solutions, but by listening carefully to what your life is asking of you now.
It is a space for honesty, reflection, and change.
How I Work
My approach is relational and integrative, informed by trauma theory, psychodynamic understanding, and many years of sitting with people in the complexity of their lives.
Much of my work focuses on the emotional lives of gay and bisexual men — exploring how shame, belonging, masculinity, sexuality, and identity shape the ways we relate to ourselves and to others.
Together, we might look at patterns in relationships, the ways you have learned to protect yourself from being hurt, or the quiet stories you carry about who you are allowed to be.
Sometimes the work is about loss or transition.
Sometimes it is about intimacy, connection, or the search for meaning when older certainties no longer hold.
My work is also shaped by a way of understanding psychological change that I have observed and developed over time — what I call the REPT process: Relational, Emotional, Processing, and Transitional
At its heart is a simple observation: transformation rarely happens all at once or spontaneously. It unfolds through relationship, through feeling what has been held inside, through making sense of experience, and through the gradual movement into a new way of being.
In therapy, we pay attention to where you are in that movement — what wants to be spoken, what needs to be felt, and what may be ready to change.
The work is not about forcing transformation, but about creating the conditions where it can emerge.
Therapy is not passive.
It is a living conversation — a meeting of presence and honesty.
It asks for courage, but it is work that is held carefully and respectfully.
Themes We Might Meet
Many gay and bisexual men come to therapy carrying experiences such as:
• shame around identity or sexuality
• difficulty with intimacy and vulnerability
• repeating patterns in relationships
• loneliness or disconnection from community
• navigating masculinity and self-acceptance
• complex relationships with sex, chemsex, or substances
• family relationships and the experience of coming out
• the quiet pressure to appear strong or successful while feeling something different inside
Therapy becomes a space where these experiences can be spoken about openly, understood more deeply, and gradually integrated into a fuller sense of self.
Ways of Working
Sessions are available online across Ireland, the UK, Europe, and the continental United States.
For those based in Dublin, therapy can also take place outdoors through walk-and-talk psychotherapy in Phoenix Park — an eco-based approach that brings movement, breath, and the natural world into the process.
Sometimes walking side-by-side allows conversations to unfold in ways that feel easier and more natural than sitting face-to-face indoors.
Why Adolescence Matters
My training in Adolescent Psychotherapy shapes much of how I understand adult life.
Many of the wounds we carry — shame, disconnection, the need to prove ourselves or hide parts of who we are — were formed during adolescence, a time of intense transformation and vulnerability.
In therapy, we often talk about the inner child, but the inner adolescent is just as vital.
That part of us still carries the longing to be seen, the defiance of not being understood, and the tenderness that comes with becoming.
Meeting that part with compassion can open pathways toward deeper self-acceptance and connection.
If You’re Thinking of Starting
Reaching out for therapy can feel like standing at another threshold — uncertain, but quietly hopeful.
If you are considering beginning, we can start with a brief introductory conversation. There is no pressure, simply a chance to talk about what is happening and to see whether this space feels like the right fit.
Therapy at The Threshold Practice is not about fixing what is broken.
It is about creating a space where what is real can be seen, understood, and integrated — a place where you can meet yourself with honesty, curiosity, and care.